Lily Sloane Therapy

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Hello, I’m Lily. I offer virtual psychotherapy for humans looking to break free from internalized oppression, challenge the status quo, and feel more connected.

Why therapy?

Therapy is a place to build safety and trust with another human being so you can begin unsticking your stuck places and experience more of your full self in this messy, imperfect existence. Because, if we block out too much of the hard stuff, we start blocking out the good stuff too.

Therapy can help you understand how you meet the conditions of the world inside and outside of you. From there, how can you feel what needs to be felt? How can you act on what requires action? And how can you cope with the ways your needs or the needs of your community go unmet?


I’ve accumulated a decade and a half of experience working with individuals living through a wide range of emotional challenges, from career dissatisfaction to relationship problems to anxiety and depression. Additionally, here are a few areas I’ve specifically focused on in my practice.

Body Liberation

Therapy can help you find freedom from toxic diet and wellness culture, regardless of your shape, size, ability, or health status. I’m a fat-affirming and weight-neutral therapist, bringing wisdom from a lifetime of seeking peace with my body and professional experience treating eating disorders and disordered eating. Whether you’re on the fence, new to this paradigm, or ready to grieve and heal, I’m here for it.

Substance Use/Misuse

I will work to facilitate an individualized, open minded, and non-shaming exploration of your relationship to substance use. This approach, referred to as Harm Reduction, is about building insight and experimenting with changes that work for you, whether or not you identify as an “addict”.

Social and Environmental Justice

I’m interested in your experiences of privilege and oppression and how you navigate life from those intersections. It’s undeniable that we are facing severe existential crises that impact all of us. Therapy can help you move through the inevitable losses and feel more empowered and less alone. Realizing we’re in this together can help us build a better world.

About Me

The Human

I’m an overly-existential, creative, feeling human with a (sometimes) dark sense of humor. I love making art (especially music and audio stories), reading sci-fi, jumping into a cool lake, cooking and eating delicious food, and looking for hidden gems in musty thrift shops. I struggle with perfectionism, lean a bit anxious, and have crawled my way out of diet culture and disordered eating (with plenty of help, of course!)

I’m a cis-gender, small-fat, white, secular half-Jewish woman. I was born on the East coast, but mostly raised in Northern California. My usual pronouns are “she/her” but “they” works just fine too.

The Professional

I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in San Francisco. I received my Master’s in Integral Counseling Psychology from California Institute of Integral Studies in 2009. Outside of my private practice, I’ve worked in a hospital, an elementary school, and an eating disorder treatment center. I’ve worked with children, families, couples, and groups of all ages. My focus now is working with individual adult clients. While my general view of healing and change could be considered Humanistic/Existential, I incorporate methods from many different therapeutic modalities as appropriate.

Blending my artist and therapist selves, I produced two therapy related podcasts, A Therapist Walks Into a Bar and Radical Advice. I’ve contributed to articles for The Cut, SF Chronicle, and Fortune Well and guested on a variety of podcasts, including the “Mind My Mind” episode of The Allusionist.

Fees & Insurance


50 Minute Therapy Session: $210

Sessions are typically 50 minutes, once a week. Sometimes meeting more often or for a longer session is beneficial. This is determined on a case by case basis and can always be re-evaluated. Longer sessions are prorated.

Payments are processed via credit or debit card at the time of service.


I don’t work directly with insurance companies. I’m happy to provide statements for FSA, HSA, or insurance reimbursement. Contact your insurance company to ask what your “out-of-network” benefits are for psychotherapy.

Contact Me

Want to inquire about working together? Fill out the form below so we can set up a free 15 minute phone consultation to determine if we might be a good fit. I will typically respond within 48 hours.